The Critical Need for Real Human Connection

Human connection is vital for our well-being, providing a deep sense of belonging, purpose, and emotional support as well as promoting physical wellness. We actually release the hormone oxytocin when we are in the physical presence of others. This hormone helps reduce stress and mitigate the potential strain that stress can have on our long-term physical health, says C. Sue Carter, PhD, co-director of the Brain Body Center at the University of Illinois at Chicago (UIC). Her research shows it can also enhance our sense of happiness and foster a deeper connection with others. Digital interaction cannot replicate the same positive effects as being in the real presence of others. Social media often fosters comparison and can increase feelings of loneliness, leaving people feeling emotionally unfulfilled and isolated. A genuine, in-person relationship is necessary for lasting emotional impact. True connection requires more than likes or comments; it needs empathy, mutual understanding, and vulnerability to truly thrive.

Here are some tips to strengthen your relationships:

Prioritize quality face-to-face time. 

Put away devices during conversations with family and friends to give them your full, undivided attention.

Practice active listening.

When someone is speaking, truly listen to understand their perspective rather than simply waiting for your turn to talk. Ask follow-up questions to show you’re engaged.

Be vulnerable and honest.

Authentic connection is built on trust. Share your thoughts and feelings openly with trusted individuals to foster deeper bonds.

Find common ground.

Join clubs, volunteer, or participate in hobbies that involve face-to-face interaction to meet like-minded people.

Express gratitude.

Regularly show appreciation for the people in your life through simple gestures or sincere words. This makes them feel valued and reinforces your connection.